I don't know why I didn't post for so long.... I wasn't reading much either... I guess I just needed a break. Much has happened.... you know, life goes on.
First of all, Son2 is fine. He and K broke up for good, they both now have found separate apartments and seem to be doing fine. I don't think they have any contact with each other right now, maybe for the best. I miss that girl a lot. We are trying to stay in touch, hope we can keep that up.
Son2 is living in what he describes as a crappy apartment, with a roommate who was a childhood friend. I haven't seen this apt yet. Don't get me wrong, neither one of these guys is perfect, but although D, the roommate, drinks (like many Wisconsin college students), he does not do drugs, and he knows all too well Son2's history and has said he will not tolerate any of that. Son2 has been his designated driver a few times. I think they will look out for each other a bit. Son2 is sober as far as I know, does not drink either. He still likes guns, and has a buddy that he likes to target shoot with, and also play Airsoft with. This buddy is also an artist (photographer) so they have a lot in common. Son2 is also trying to start a punk band with his roommate and a couple of other guys. Not the sort of thing I would recommend for a recovering addict, but it keeps him busy, and it's his choice.
Son2 is becoming more and more independent. He is working as many hours as he can get this summer. We still pay his rent, but he is covering most of his other expenses. He doesn't come home every week anymore, and that is weird. He has his own life, he is doing his own thing. I didn't know if I would ever get to this point, but I finally can say I do not worry for him constantly anymore. In fact I don't text him every single day anymore either. He is not living the life I ever imagined he would, but he is living his own life. We were out of town the weekend he moved, so he managed all of that without us, with a few of his friends to help. One thing I asked him to do for us is figure out this summer is how many more semesters of college he has left. I'm thinking 2 or maybe 3.
So then, what about me? My job sucks still, having trouble handling the stress. A couple of friends of ours passed away this spring, and my daughter-in-law's mother was just diagnosed with Lymphoma. Add a couple of annoying health issues of my own, and yeah... life goes on... with or without addiction in it. I'm trying to focus on what I think is important in life, but it's not always easy to be positive. We have so much to be thankful for though, my kids are independent and happy, lots to look forward to.
So, Life is good, some things that happen are good, and some things are bad. Life goes on...