Son2 made his weekly trip home last night for Group. He talked a lot about how frustrated he is with how things are going with K. He is angry, and doesn't think he is being treated very well.
I'm not sure, but I suspect K wants her old life back. She says she is trying to re-establish friendships that she has let flounder during the last couple of years she has been with Son2. She misses her old friends, and wants to spend time with them. Yes, she has started partying again. I'm not sure how much, but she is drinking. So... she's been spending a lot of time with friends, and excluding Son2.
Son2 is a bit of a loner. He needs to have his own friends. Needs to make new friends. He needs to have some kind of a life apart from her. I suspect that's maybe what she is trying to pursue... but Son2 is having a hard time, and he's pretty upset with her. I don't know if they can overcome this.
Yes, I know it is their problem to solve, it's really between them to figure this out. But, I can't help but feel bad. I adore her, I love her like the daughter I never had. She is a wonderful person and has so many endearing qualities. I just don't know what she is thinking, and I am so afraid she wants out. It's personal for me. Of course, there is that underlying fear of how will Son2 react if they break up. You all know what I'm thinking...
Why did she do it? Why did she even start to date him more than two years ago when she knew he was using heroin? Why did she stay with him when he relapsed? Why didn't she dump him when she had so many opportunities in the past? Why now, when he has made so much good progress, does she well..., change? Hmmmmmm.... this girl is a complex cookie.